I find myself mulling over the notions of confidence and humility as I reflect on our summer. While the two might be viewed as opposites, I believe one requires the other. When paired together, confidence and humility Really Do Matter and are a powerful combination.
Several years ago I dealt with a man in the medical profession who was over confident in his skills and knowledge. He spoke to me as though his lightning fast “understanding” of my situation was the only plausible explanation. He negated my thoughts, feelings, and wishes and communicated in no uncertain terms that I would be sorry for the decision I’d made and would return to him when I realized my error.
I’m so glad I followed my instincts. After 2 months of a less-invasive course of treatment, my symptoms resolved and I’ve not had the same trouble in 4 years. I have chosen not to return to this professional because of his ego. He had (and continues to have) confidence without humility.
And yet, confidence is important. I want my mechanic to be confident that he knows the parts to repair or replace in my mini-van before I entrust him with $600. I want the ER doctor to be confident in his skills to stitch up Caden’s gash without undue scarring. I want my children to be confident when they meet new people or speak in public (and if you know Bailey you know we’ve succeeded in this with him :).
Our daughter Emma’s eyes were crossed at birth. After her six week checkup, she was referred to a pediatric ophthalmologist. 8 months of appointments and patching later, Emma was carried into surgery to loosen the muscles in both eyes.
Dr. Durso has reason to be confident in his understanding of the eye. We continue to see him annually and are confident that Emma’s (and Franklin’s) eyes are in very good hands with Dr. Durso.
In a single office visit, you too would recognize the difference in these two medical professionals.
Dr. Durso has a fantastic reputation. If you live in New Mexico and your child has had an eye concern, you’ve likely heard his name. Despite the fame, he is quiet and unassuming. He is helpful when speaking of the situation and is not dismissive when the patient and family question to better understand the problem. He has been given tremendous talent and wisdom.
The Bible has much to say about confidence. In a nutshell, our confidence is to be in The Lord and not in our flesh and our own understanding. When my confidence is in my Lord (who equipped me with certain skills and talents) my service within my skills-set is a blessing to others, I’m quick to give God the glory, I’m quick to admit when I’ve made a mistake (because we’re all human and we all will), and I’m on the right track with this whole confidence and humility pairing.
How do you teach your children to balance confidence and humility? Share by commenting above!
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