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Need an Idea for a Family Read Aloud?

Spoiler alert!  If you’ve not read The Chronicles of Narnia and want the thrill of the adventure first hand, read no further!

My husband and I left two weeks ago today with our daughter Emma on what has become in our home a family tradition.  six years ago we took our oldest son Bailey on a week-long camping trip.  I remember wanting time alone with him to really re-connect.  If you’ve raised a son you know that somewhere between ten and twelve, as testosterone begins to flood the brain, a boy has the potential of losing the majority of their common sense.  I’m so grateful that Franklin has taught junior high and high school for many years.  I found peace in his reminders that Bailey was in fact, although I questioned it, a very normal boy.

This year was Emma’s turn.  5th grade was trying for Emma.  She’s bright and quick with her school work so she spent a lot of time reading and watching her peers.  She found that she could relate to very few students in her classes.  Although she is very relational, sensitive, and social her peers were focused on very worldly things, things Emma is uncomfortable with, praise the Lord!  What a wonderful time we had spending every minute of a whole week focused on encouraging her and learning as much as we could about our precious, only daughter.

We spent 2 nights at the Arches National Park in Moab, Utah and 3 nights at The Grand Canyon’s North Rim.  And, just as we had with Bailey, we listened to The Chronicles of Narnia, all seven books, during our drive time.  Each time I’ve read these books I’ve been awed by the sheer quantity of scriptural truth found throughout the collection.  It boggles my mind that many in academia deny any parallel.

I’d like to share our observations.  Maybe you’ve read the collection yourself and drew the same parallels.  I’d love to hear others the Holy Spirit might have led you to.  And maybe you’ve not read The Chronicles of Narnia.  My musings might help you decide if this is a worthy reading adventure for your family to embark upon.  Because there are seven books to pick apart here I’ve divided this post.  I’m including my thoughts about the first three books this week and will save my thoughts over the final four for next week.

The Chronicles of Narnia begins with The Magician’s Nephew.  In a nutshell, two children use magic rings to travel from their world to parallel worlds.  We have our first glimpse of Aslan, a mighty lion who is, throughout The Chronicles, a shadow of Jesus Christ.  In a world that is completely dark Aslan sings a wordless song to create the world of Narnia.  Aslan fills Narnia with creatures and animals.  Throughout The Chronicles, when the name of Aslan is spoken, when touches the animals, and when he breathes on them they are recreated.  They are no longer what they use to be.

The second, and certainly the most familiar of the seven, The Lion, The Witch and Wardrobe brings four children to Narnia.  Narnia is controlled by the White Witch who has reigned with terror and an endless winter for 100 years.  The children fulfill a prophecy in coming and hope is restored as word of Aslan’s return travels through Narnia.  When the name of Aslan is spoken, everyone feels better; taller, stronger, more alive, and more brave.  As the animals tell the children about Narnia and the witch,  Lucy cries, “Can no one help us?” and Mr. Beaver replies, “Only Aslan.  He’s our only hope.”

In his desire for the sweet candy Turkish Delight, one of the boys selfishly although unwittingly, joins forces with the White Witch.  His sin is paid for by Aslan who is shaved, bound, and killed on a stone table by the witch and her followers.   But Aslan raises from the dead, having paid the price for Edmond’s betrayal, and leads the battle against the witch and her entourage.  In one of the final scenes Aslan roars, “The witch is mine!”   Just as we, without the intercession of Jesus Christ, cannot battle evil, the children couldn’t kill the witch alone.  Aslan went after her wand, removing her authority, as Jesus has removed Satan’s authority in our lives.

The third story, A Horse and His Boy, tells the story of a talking horse and a boy who team up to run away from cruel masters.  The horse remembers his youth in Narnia but the boy, who looks Narnian, knows nothing of the land to the north.

As they travel toward Narnia they meet and join forces with a second talking horse and a girl.  The four are unknowingly helped along the way by Aslan.  This book in particular gives us much to think about with regard to the topic of fear when Aslan reveals himself and explains his unseen aid in their journey.

When Shasta and Bree needed companionship, Aslan forced Wynn and Aravis to their side.  When the horses were exhausted and ready to quit Aslan sent jackels to give the horses a new strength.  And even before the journey, Aslan provided the wind that pushed Shasta’s small forgotten boat to the shore where a man sat wakeful to receive him.

I was reminded that, in partnership with Jesus I can run straight ahead, over every obstacle…  I can go faster than I think I can….  I might not understand in the midst of the storm, but if there ever is a time when I must understand it will be revealed to me…  Sometimes, all that can be done is to rest and recharge for tomorrow’s battle…   When we think we’ve hit the mark, it is really that we’ve been helped along the way…  When we are frightened we need to draw close to Jesus.  He will give us confidence to dare to dare…  And finally, Aravis observes “I would sooner be eaten by you than fed by anyone else,” bringing to mind Psalm 84:10, “Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere….”

Check in again next Saturday for my thoughts and musings on the final four.  And take time to read with your children today.  They will love the cuddle time and you will impart the value of a good read.  Be blessed!

Three Family “Traditions”

I’ve enjoyed meeting with several homeschooling mommies this summer as I prepare for our school year. I’ve learned so much from them already as we’ve discussed our children and their strengths and struggles, curriculum, literature, “schedules”, school “space”, and expectations. In a recent conversation with a precious mom who has a daughter just one year older than Emma the conversation topic turned to purity as it relates to discipleship opportunities as our children go through puberty and the middle school years. I shared 2 things that we’ve done now with our two oldest, two “traditions” if you will. We certainly plan to continue both with our youngest. Along those lines, I began to think about another of our “traditions”. I wonder if these three are similar to something you treasure as a family tradition and I wonder if you have your own that you’d like to share.

I’m not sure that our first “tradition” began on our first anniversary, but very early on, and because of limited financial ability to do something amazing on our anniversary, like take a trip-of-a-lifetime, I created a list of questions. Franklin and I take 2 copies of these questions into a restaurant and over dinner we individually answer each question. The questions give us an opportunity to reflect on the past year and dream a little as we look forward to the next. After we’ve both finished our own remembrances, we read through our answers together. We often confuse the waiter with our 2 hours of silent contemplation and then intermittent laughter and tears as we celebrate the past, present, and future together.

“What kind of questions are they?” you might ask. They’re nothing profound and I don’t mind sharing them in the least. I might add here that we were married on New Year’s Eve, so “this year” and “next year” refer both to our year of marriage and the calendar year. In fact, we were married on the Millennium’s Eve. Franklin chose the date assuming that it would be easy to remember our anniversary and exactly how long we’ve been married (this coming New Year’s Eve will be 14 years as we ring in 2014). Ingenious, wouldn’t you agree?

What was your favorite adventure this year? What was your hardest day or your most difficult experience? What was your biggest celebration of the year? What will you never forget about this year? What are you worried about as we wrap this year up? What are you looking forward to in the coming year? Where would you like to go for our anniversary next year? Where do you envision our finances being one year from today? Where would you like to see each of the kids one year from today? What else would you like to accomplish this coming year? What was your favorite gift this year? What craziness from the kids do you want to remember from this year?

The second and third “traditions” are more family related.

We shared Bailey’s summers (my oldest from my first marriage) with his father and step-mother. Since he was gone six weeks of every summer, the time we had with him was particularly precious. The summer after his fifth grade year we decided to take Bailey on a camping trip, just he and Franklin and I. It was a whirlwind of a trip. We traveled most mornings to a new destination, hiked all afternoon, set up our tent and campsite in the late evening, and began again the next morning for our next stop. We visited Chaco Canyon, Canyon de Chelly, Mesa Verde, and the Great Sand Dunes in six short days. While traveling, we listened to the seven Chronicles of Narnia books on CD and enjoyed the conversations that naturally follow such marvelous reads.

Looking back, that trip was pivotal in our relationship with Bailey as he transitioned from little boy to young man. We were able to lay the groundwork for conversations that would follow during his junior high years and the trip itself allowed us time, without any distractions, for sharing our heart with one another. I don’t remember taking any work or any other books with us. We were intentional about enjoying time outdoors in the beauty of God’s creation, enjoying Bailey and who he is, and focusing on our relationship with him.

We leave with Emma one week from today on her camping trip. We have 2 nights reserved at The Arches National Park near Moab, Utah and 3 nights at The Grand Canyon’s North Rim. Although Emma is more of a book worm than Bailey was and has read The Chronicles of Narnia, I’ve checked out the collection from the library and can’t wait to revisit these books with Franklin and Emma. I’m particularly excited to spend the week focused on Emma, where she’s been, where she’s at, and where she sees herself in the coming years.

And finally, the third “tradition” began with my mother’s mom, my Nana. As a wedding gift, my grandmother gave me Letters to Karen by Charlie W. Shedd. The copy she gave me was old and yellowed and in the margins she’d written from her heart, practical lessons she’d learned in her marriage to my grandfather. What a precious legacy and a memory of these amazing people, both of whom I lost in my mid-twenties, long before I knew the value of the wisdom they had offered.

Because of that gift, and because of my love of the written word, I’ve begun to purchase books for my children and have written personal notes from my life in the margins for them to read and think about.

The first two books I chose were reactions to new challenges I was facing as a mom.

When Bailey began to think about dating I ran to the used bookstore, desperate for advice on parenting a teen as he began navigating the dating scene. I found Joshua Harris’ I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I don’t know that I would have valued the information in the book as a teen, but I certainly believe that had I, I would have avoided some heart-ache. The approach it presents is so contrary to today’s culture and I’m so grateful that Bailey is not as prideful a teen as I was. He read the book and has handled himself with integrity. I praise God for the young man he is.

About that same time, Emma became interested in breasts and bras. Again, she was my first experience navigating the topic of puberty with a daughter. I found Growing Up, It’s a Girl Thing: Straight Talk about First Bras, First Periods, and Your Changing Body. It is a fairly detailed book for young tween girls, but I reasoned at the time since Emma was in public school that I’d rather Emma be presented with all the facts in a safe setting at home than learn about puberty from her peers or Google it… because she, in particular, is our inquisitive child. Again, I made notes in the margins, sharing my own memories of puberty and physical changes with my only daughter. She’s found quiet times to question me in person based on the information I shared and we continue to find her re-reading that book at bedtime when we tuck her in at night.

Not that we’ve done much “right” in our desperate attempts to do the best we know to do as we walk with God in this journey, I imagine these three traditions in particular continuing. And again I wonder, are these three similar to something you treasure as a family tradition and I wonder if you have your own that you’d like to share?