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Seatbelts Really Do Matter

Three weeks ago I answered the phone and received one of those calls we parents dread.  Our 18 year old was on the other end and quickly said, “Mom, I was just in a wreck.”

Bailey was less than a mile from our home.  A semi ran a red light and hit Bailey in the driver’s back door and wheel well.

We found pieces of the back end of the car and our trunk contents scattered across four lanes of highway and an adjacent parking lot.  Although our car was totaled, Bailey walked from the scene with seat belt bruises alone.   I’ll take seat belt bruises over the alternative any day of the week!  I can argue, from personal experience now, that Seatbelts Really Do Matterseatbelt

I found the history of seat belts quite interesting.  You might find it interesting, too!

“Safety belts” were invented in the late 1800s to secure a person being raised and lowered (painters, firemen) to a fixed object.  The idea was applied in the early 1900s to aircraft when the first pilots were bounced around during takeoff and landing.

In the 1940s, automobile manufacturers began to experiment with primitive seat belt designs.  Many manufacturers went on to offer seat belts as options in the early 1950s.  In 1958, after the Saab sedan was introduced with seat belts as a standard feature, seat belts became commonplace.

Early designs improved when Dr C. Hunter Shelden, concerned by head injuries he treated in the emergency room, proposed many safety features for automobiles.  Dr. Shelden recommend the retractable seat belt in a 1955 article published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

On January 1, 1968, a federal law required all vehicles (except buses) to be manufactured with seat belts, but laws and enforcement of seat belt use were left to the states.   New York was the first state to pass a law (1984) that required vehicle occupants to wear seat belts, and the majority of states followed suit in the decade that followed.  New Hampshire remains the only state that does not have required seat belt use (although its DMV website strongly recommends it) by adults.

Not only am I grateful that Bailey was wearing a seat belt, I’m grateful for many other things:

  • Bailey’s quick reflexes (had he not seen the truck and hit the gas he would have been hit in his driver’s door)
  • The cab did not have a trailer (more weight equals more force)
  • And ultimately, God’s protection and watch-care over Bailey

I know that my life and the lives of my family and friends are in the hands of our loving Father and Creator.  While things might not always work out as I have planned (and sometimes we deal with devastation) there is no other whose hands I would rather trust and cling to.   My hope for myself and my loved ones is in Him and His promise of eternity through Jesus Christ, His son.

I’d be interested in reading your seat belt stories.  Share by commenting above!

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Pairing Confidence with Humility Really Does Matter

I find myself mulling over the notions of confidence and humility as I reflect on our summer.  While the two might be viewed as opposites, I believe one requires the other.  When paired together, confidence and humility Really Do Matter and are a powerful combination.

Several years ago I dealt with a man in the medical profession who was over confident in his skills and knowledge.  He spoke to me as though his lightning fast “understanding” of my situation was the only plausible explanation.  He negated my thoughts, feelings, and wishes and communicated in no uncertain terms that I would be sorry for the decision I’d made and would return to him when I realized my error.

I’m so glad I followed my instincts.  After 2 months of a less-invasive course of treatment, my symptoms resolved and I’ve not had the same trouble in 4 years.   I have chosen not to return to this professional because of his ego.  He had (and continues to have) confidence without humility.

And yet, confidence is important.  I want my mechanic to be confident that he knows the parts to repair or replace in my mini-van before I entrust him with $600.  I want the ER doctor to be confident in his skills to stitch up Caden’s gash without undue scarring.  I want my children to be confident when they meet new people or speak in public (and if you know Bailey you know we’ve succeeded in this with him :).

Our daughter Emma’s eyes were crossed at birth.  After her six week checkup,  she was referred to a pediatric ophthalmologist.  8 months of appointments and patching later, Emma was carried into surgery to loosen the muscles in both eyes.

confidence and humility

Dr. Durso has reason to be confident in his understanding of the eye.  We continue to see him annually and are confident that Emma’s (and Franklin’s) eyes are in very good hands with Dr. Durso.

In a single office visit, you too would recognize the difference in these two medical professionals.

Dr. Durso has a fantastic reputation.  If you live in New Mexico and your child has had an eye concern, you’ve likely heard his name.  Despite the fame,  he is quiet and unassuming.  He is helpful when speaking of the situation and is not dismissive when the patient and family question to better understand the problem.   He has been given tremendous talent and wisdom.

The Bible has much to say about confidence.  In a nutshell, our confidence is to be in The Lord and not in our flesh and our own understanding.  When my confidence is in my Lord (who equipped me with certain skills and talents) my service within my skills-set is a blessing to others, I’m quick to give God the glory, I’m quick to admit when I’ve made a mistake (because we’re all human and we all will), and I’m on the right track with this whole confidence and humility pairing.

How do you teach your children to balance confidence and humility?  Share by commenting above!

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