Monthly Archives: February 2014

Budgeting Really Does Matter

I know.  I know.  Budgets and money management is really not what you want to think about today.  In fact, a root canal might be preferable because money is often frustrating.  There might be more on your “I’d like to purchase” than your income will allow, you’d rather not think about the debt you’ve accumulated, and planning for the future is another headache altogether.

I get it.  But you will never make headway without a plan.  Ultimately, a budget is simply a tool that you design to direct your dollars to specific categories.  It really can be one of your very best friends.

A budget doesn’t have to be a straight jacket.  If you want to spend $200 on shoes this month, knock yourself out!  But be honest about it.  Whether you like it or not and regardless of your income, Budgets Really Do Matter.

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Franklin and I married 14 years ago.  Neither of us knew how to budget and we managed our money paycheck to paycheck.  Our bills went into a pile and when our paycheck came, we paid the bills.  Any surplus was quickly spent and we began the bills in a pile, wait until payday, and put it on 90-days-same-as-cash or a card if we want or need it badly enough cycle over again.

All that changed when Franklin and I signed up for Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University and had some support in learning to create, tweak, and stick to a budget.

I confess.  I am the nerd and I’m not ashamed to tell you that I have, in our files, a written budget for each month of the last decade.  I’m unapologetic because it’s helped us meet some important goals we established 10 years ago.

We are debt free except for our house.  We do not have a credit card.  We have an emergency fund that will sustain us for several months should we suddenly become unemployed.  We have traveled to Alaska, Mexico, and extensively in the continental USA in recent years with cash and our debit card.

We have saved for significant purchases and have saved for a home-based business start-up.  As of this week, we have, in-hand, the first run of our self-published early readers without having incurred debt.

We know, ultimately, that this was possible through financial wisdom and discernment that is available to those who ask for it from our Heavenly Father.  We also know that His answer to prayer for financial wisdom is rarely a windfall.  It will often require diligence in the day-to-day of money management and our day-to-day diligence is dependent on a well planned budget.

One of the greatest blessings in learning to budget has been, in turn, teaching our children about managing their finances.  We put Bailey, our 18 year old, on a budget when he turned 13.  He was given $200 at the beginning of every month (what we figured we spent on his lunches, piano, clothing, toiletries, and spending every month).  He knew that we would not bail him out when he ran out of money and we taught him to plan and save for bigger purchases.  He supplemented his “income” with lawn jobs and was financially literate to manage a larger monthly income when he began to work at McDonald’s this year.

If you are struggling and would like to learn the ins and outs of budgeting I would strongly recommend checking out Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University.  Dave’s team has no clue who I am nor am I receiving any compensation of any kind for steering you in that direction.  I know there are infinitely many options out there.  I wish I could say, “Research them and choose the one that best meets your needs,” but I’m not willing to say that.  So many of the options will steer you to debt products.  RUN from these!

There really are no quick fix, money-for-nothing, pyramid scheme, or “microwave” options for managing money.  Dave calls a monthly written budget a crock-pot.  Successful money management requires thought and proactive diligence day in and day for months (years) on end.

How has budgeting brought financial peace and security to your life?    If you aren’t yet in love with budgeting, what’s keeping you from a monthly written budget?  Share your ideas!  Join the conversation by replying at the top of this post.

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Memories Really Do Matter

I wonder what you would list as the most pivotal moments in your life.  I’m sure there are moments you will never forget, be they good or bad, that shaped you.  Those moments are part of who you are today and your memory of those moments likely impacts how you function and react as an adult.  I think it’s fair to say that Memories Really Do Matter.

42164-Memories-Last-ForeverIn our family’s daily Bible study, we’ve covered Genesis thru Joshua this year.  I’ve been very aware of an interesting trend.  In the Old Testament, when God’s glory and power was revealed, there was often a “memorial” established.

After the world-wide flood, God set a rainbow in the sky as a “memorial”.  Every time we see a rainbow we are reminded of our covenant God.

The Israelites built physical memorials.  Their altars served as remembrances of specific events in the nation’s history:  manifestations of God’s power.  I’ve thought quite a bit about memories, memorials, and mementos.

I am not a particularly sentimental person.  I have some (but not many) mementos from my childhood.  I have several pictures documenting bad hairdos and big, gaudy homecoming mums.  I have my dad’s clarinet.  I’ve saved the metal ruler my dad whacked against the kitchen table (acting as my personal metronome) while helping me prepare for auditions.

I certainly have more mementos from the last 18 years of my life.  I have lots of “treasures” from my husband and my children.  These trinkets fill my heart when I consider each “gift” and the event attached to the memento.

While a memento can kindle a memory, so too can a melody, a certain scent, a special taste, the weather, the date, a sermon, a conversation, or a certain tone of voice.  Unfortunately, memory lane is not always a beautiful street lined with pristine trees and sunshine.

Many of today’s children suffer unimaginable horror that will haunt them in the future.   Their memories of abuse and neglect or indifference will color their relationships and assumptions about people for the rest of their lives.

The questions I wrestle with as a parent sound like this:  What are my children going to remember about their childhood, our family, and me as a parent?  Am I helping build memories that are going to bring my children joy and comfort?  Are their memories going to help them in times of trouble or add fuel to their difficulties in life?  Will their memories of our home strengthen their resolve to be adults with exemplary character or am I crippling my children?  Will they react poorly in future relationships because they see me react poorly today?  Will they remember things I’d rather they not?

When we think of making memories we might be tempted to think big, fantastic, and extra-ordinary; but building memories that provide for future stability and joy do not have to cost a penny.

I want my children to remember that our home was safe and comfortable.  I want them to remember daily prayer and Bible study.  I want them to remember that we loved, encouraged, and respected one another.  I want their memories to be full of times when our family served in the community, prioritized time with cousins and grandparents, and read to learn and grow daily.

Do something today to plant a “seed” in your child’s heart with an expectation that it will germinate and grow and will bring joy and comfort as a memory down the road.  Join the conversation by replying at the top of this post.  Share your plan for planting a seed.

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