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Gratitude Really Does Matter

My sister’s family has been through a lot (to say the very least) the last three years.  They have dealt with both extreme loss and extreme generosity.  In an effort to prevent an attitude of entitlement, Kari bought dozens of thank you cards and became very intentional about writing thank you notes with her children every week.  My children and I have been the blessed to receive a couple of these short notes.  For both the one extending and the one receiving, Gratitude Really Does Matter.

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I mentioned Kari’s desire to guard her children from an attitude of entitlement.  An “it’s all about me because it’s my right” approach to life is altogether too common and can certainly be divisive.  It truly is the opposite of a humble, grateful spirit.

When I think of myself as just 1 of more than 7.046 billion people on Earth I find it difficult to be anything but grateful.  I truly am rich in so many ways.  You are too if you are reading this blog on a computer with access to the internet (not to mention the fact that you are probably clothed and have had something to eat and drink in the last 24 hours).

In addition to combating an attitude of entitlement, recalling and being grateful for both the large and small blessings in life causes us to be more generous.

18 years ago I found myself 6 months pregnant and newly separated after 2 years of marriage.  Despite what might have looked like a shameful situation, the women of Central Christian Church in Portales blessed me with a baby shower.  Most of the women met me for the first time at the shower and had no reason to bless me with their presence or gifts, except their desire to be the hands and feet of Christ.

8 years ago our youngest ruptured both lungs at birth.  While we had saved for the pregnancy and delivery we had not expected a flight to Lubbock and an extended stay at the NICU.  A dear friend from Victory Life Church stopped by the hospital and gave us an envelope filled with cash.  Our church body covered the 2nd co-pay and our 2 week stay at the Ronald McDonald House.

When we truly recognize and remember the many gifts we’ve been given (be it a kind act, word, or tangible something), we’re compelled to pay it forward, blessing others whenever we are able.

I’d certainly be remiss not to mention the giver of all gifts, our Heavenly Father.  He provides for our needs (Matthew 6:25-34), protects us from harm (Psalm 139:5), has adopted us (Ephesians 1:5) and has given us His name (1 John 3:1).

Today I’m grateful for so many things:

1)  Cloud cover, a quiet courtyard, coffee, Franklin’s pancakes

2)  Bailey’s graduation (friends, family, generous gifts of travel, time, and tangibles) as a culmination of the last 13 years (loving teachers, opportunities for success) and the hope of what is to come (the Lottery scholarship, outstanding music and religion faculty at ENMU)

3) Birthdays- Franklin’s 41 years on Earth, our 15 years together, and 6 special friends who helped me celebrate my 40th last night despite tornado warnings

How do you foster an attitude of gratefulness in your children?

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Automaticity Really Does Matter

How many things can you successfully manage at one time?  For years I thought I was fantastic at “multi-tasking”.  I still find myself with many irons in the fire but my thoughts on “multi-tasking” have changed.

I know that when I stretch myself to handle too many things at once, everything suffers.  I find that I’ve made mistakes or short-changed something (or someone) when I haven’t given myself completely to one thing at a time.  When I focus on a single task, my final product (or the relationship I’ve slowed down to fully enjoy) is superior and more fulfilling than tasks I complete (even if it’s coffee with a friend) while thinking about other things on my to-do list.

I found the need to focus on one thing at a time to be important for children mentally wrestling with their learning, too.  When I work with a child who is learning to read, I want them focused on reading strategies.  When a child has to stop and think about sounds a letter (or letter combination) makes or struggle to “remember” sight words, their reading is slow and labored.  In “teacher talk” this quick recall of fundamental skills is called automaticityAutomaticity frees a child’s mind to focus on one thing at a time.  Automaticity in early literacy Really Does Matter.

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Automaticity refers to the ability to recognize or do things quickly without thought.  It is an automatic response pattern or habit.  It is the result of learning, repetition, and practice – ergo one of my favorite sayings about the learning process, “Practice makes permanent.”  Automaticity can refer to any automatic response (my morning routine after 20 years of adult life, a pitcher’s windup, a gymnast’s approach, a pianist’s posture, my grandfather’s shoe polishing routine) as well as fundamental skills in the classroom.

While I do believe that a child needs to know short vowel and consonant sounds and a good number of sight words as quickly as possible when beginning to read, I do not believe there is a single method to learning sounds and words.  Nor do I believe there is a “correct” sequence in which sounds or words have to be introduced.  Ultimately, it is a quick recall that frees the brain to concentrate on fewer things at a time.

While I could share many activities I tried in the classroom, the following stick out as some of the most helpful for building automaticity in learning sounds.  I make no claims to having “created” much of what I used in my instructional career.  These were “stolen” from peers along the way and are certainly meant to be shared!

1)      Draw a line – Give your child a magnetic board (a stove-top burner cover or a cookie sheet), a dry erase marker, and 3-4 magnetic letters.  Have your child draw a line from left to right in the middle of the board and have them place their letters below the line.  Call the letter names (initially) in a given order and have your child find then push the letters above the line in the order you called.  Name the letters in a different sequence and have your child find and push the letters below the line (in the correct sequence).  Move on to letter sounds (using the same letters but calling the sounds rather than the letter names).  Add a challenge by adding to the number of letters you use.  Side note – make sure you move quickly to lower case letters.  Not only are you working on automaticity but you’re working on short term memory as well.

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2)      Thumb wars – Create lists of same vowel CVC (short consonant, vowel, consonant) words on cardstock.  Focusing on one short vowel sound at a time frees the brain for attention to consonant mastery. Challenge your child to gain speed in visually recognizing a change in the initial and final consonants of CVC words.  Have him keep track (with his thumb beside each word) of words read without an error.  Hold (with your thumb) the spot where he mis-read a word and challenge him to “beat” his record on subsequent readings.  This is a sneaky way to provide repeated readings J.  Move onto long vowel spelling (in my picture below) you’re your child is ready.

thumb wars

3)      Ready, set, write – Along the same lines as “thumb wars,” I love teaching sounds through writing.  Have your child use “sound boxes” in a plastic sheet protector.  While focusing initially on each short vowel sound individually, offer lots of CVC words to have your child write quickly and erase.  Remove the set vowel in the middle when your child is ready to fluently discriminate between the short vowel sounds.  Move on to words with 4 sounds, consonant blends and clusters, and long vowel spellings when your child is ready.

sound boxes

How did you help (are you helping) your child with automaticity of early literacy skills?  Please join the conversation by replying at the top of this post.

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